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What Advice Can I Offer Someone When I'm Struggling?

  So you may be asking yourself right now, how in the world can I give when I'm struggling with life myself?  I remember a young woman shortly after my divorce asking me did I have any advice for her. She was engaged and overheard that I had recently divorced. She didn't want to go into her marriage without advice to help protect her and her future husband from divorce. Well, she happened to ask me about what I would say was one of my "lowest days." I felt like I needed someone to give me advice because I was falling apart. My response to her question was, "I do not know why you are asking me, but all I can tell you is, please do not do it. You do not want to end up like me". I then went on to tell her every negative thing I could share while choosing to avoid anything that would help her or give her encouragement. Yes, I gave freely, but I gave advice that stemmed from my hurt and pain, not from experience and love. I had no desire to bless a marriage tha
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Seasons of Life

Happy November !!!!!!!!  Seasons are changing and I can see it not only by weather but also in different areas of my life. Just like myself for some of you know your seasons are changing and the newness is scary. You can kinda see the road but with all that has happened in 2020 you rather play it safe.  It will seem easier to give up or place it on hold because you feel the way I feel nervous,  excited,  and clueless on what you should do. It's ok to have those feelings but not ok to not pursue and act on what you have been called to do in your new season. For anyone who is going through this I'm out here with you so please know that your not alone. But even better God is out here with you and no matter how unequipped you feel God is always preparing you.  #faithwalk  #newseason #imready #obedience #excited #newness #Goduseme Proverbs 3:5-6 Charis is passionate about speaking the truth and working to spread the word of God and its healing power. In addition to found

Loneliness After Divorce

  Everyone has seen popular game shows like the Price is Right—ever wonder why they look out into the audience asking the person they came with if they should spin again even though they have 90 points already? In everyday situations, most people would not spin again, but in these cases, most do try for that slim 10 points, on the off chance that they can win big. Divorce is somewhat like that final spin of the wheel. Even though it may not be the smartest thing to get out there and start spinning that wheel again, many people are pushed to it by feelings of loneliness, ineptitude, or just not being good enough. In this case, most people do not have someone in the audience telling them to spin again or stick with what they have got. Instead, they have a pit in their stomach that tells them they do not want to be alone. In my early days after the divorce, the voice of loneliness was calling my name. It was telling me “spin the wheel again, come on you can do it.” So how did I respond? Y

I Can't Process My Truth

No, I'm Not Okay  As a mother watching anyone cry out for their mother as they struggle to breathe does something to you. I remember when my friend called and asked me to watch the video of George Floyd. It was disgusting, inhumane, and sadly not the first video I have seen like it. Yet for for me this video took me to another place mentally.  The fact that this keeps happening and on  top of that it could have been my husband, brothers, or grandson infuriates me. Also knowing this could happen to any woman in my family, including myself, reminded me no one is safe in my family that includes man, woman, or child.  So I tried really hard to distance myself from the media outlets to take time to process this, and to be honest I'm still at a loss and I can't process this. I can handle many things but this I cant and sadly this isn't the first time. It keeps happening over and over again. Sadly, I have had to process other stories like this one for some time now, and I

Why Should I Write My Testimony

Words have the power to change lives.  With a single word we have the power to change the lives of those around us, do more for good, and completely alter the course of human events. That being said, your personal testimony is so much more powerful than you could ever imagine. It can be hard to open up but it can also be so incredibly rewarding and freeing. How often have you been lifted up by the story of the trials and tribulations of another? How often have you wished to find someone that has been through what you have been through? Sharing personal testimony helps to guide others in their time of strife, to help them through difficult times that they might not feel like they can handle, and to inspire them to do more and to persevere. Personal testimony also has the ability to free our own minds and spirits from things that we may have been struggling with. Keeping things inside, keeping your story to yourself has the potential to cause turmoil within yourself. Sharing

What God Is Teaching Me In This Season

I asked God a few weeks ago to show me and teach me where my faith is lacking especially where I do not see or recognize it. A couple days later I jumped in my car and drove to the store to get some items for dinner. This particular day I was searching for items everywhere but I could not find what I needed to make a basic pot of chili. This was the day God showed me where my faith was lacking.   While driving home I remembered the scriptures that speak about how God told the Israelites, through Moses, to only gather enough for the day and not to save for the next day. Unfortunately they did not listen.  They hoarded selfishly because they thought they would not have enough or run out. When they did that, their food rotted.  God wanted to teach a lesson on provision through faith. Their lack of faith and dependence on God was exposed. This is where God answered my prayer regarding my lack of faith.  I have several things I'm asking God to provide for bu

Why Should I Pray After Divorce?

    Divorce is something that more and more people are being faced with each day. Each case is fundamentally similar and worlds different so finding a way to cope with the daily struggle is essential. For many, there is a real struggle to see the benefits of prayer in a time when you feel like everyone and everything has let you down. Feeling lost and alone is typical following a major life change like a divorce and as such something as simple as prayer can be incredibly powerful and moving. It is not an uncommon feeling to be bitter and feel as if God let you down and allowed your divorce to happen, there is another way of approaching this, however. For most, the feelings of bitterness only deepen as the days go on and many feel that they cannot approach God because God allowed divorce to shake their lives to the very foundation. Though these feelings of bitterness are common, they do not have to rule your life or rule your recovery and personal journey to